A sibling is truly a gift for life. It is important for parents to remember that childhood sibling relationships are not necessarily indicative of adult sibling relationships.
Parents need to be aware that they do not fall into the referee role. It is so important to teach children the skills they need to work out conflicts themselves.
Teaching children to be proactive and address their chronic issues with each other creates an environment that allows for compromise and mutual understanding and respect.
Allowing children to “work it out” when things become unsafe or even unfair sets the stage for long-term issues.
Parents need to determine the severity of their children’s behavior. Understanding typical developmental behavioral patterns allows parents to focus on the issues that need to be prioritized.
Creating a forum for shared communication within the family is absolutely critical to the success of this process. Family meetings, partnership meetings and even sibling meetings lay the groundwork for an atmosphere where everyone’s voice is important and needs to be heard.
Make a point to not engage in behavior that can be viewed as favortism.
Specific consequences that are discussed in advance need to be in place if either siblings violates the mutually agreed-upon decisions.
Normal fighting and upsets are a regular part of life with siblings but parents need to make sure it doesn’t get out of control or leave it unaddressed for too long.
As we get older, we realize the importance of these relationships and all of the relationships in our life.
Fertilize the soil, or lay the groundwork to help promote the healthy growth of the relationship between your children. Provide the love and the communication tools and it will help them not only gain higher levels of satisfaction in their interpersonal relationships throughout their lives but also with their relationship with each other.
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