Fighting The Emotional Shut Down

images23Recognizing, feeling and processing all of our emotions can be very exhausting.
Often, these emotions can bring about deep angst and pain.
To protect ourselves, sometimes we emotionally shut down.

We can go into a complete state of denial and refuse to even begin to open the door to the processing. It can be perceived by the outside world that a person has achieved success in terms of not being overwhelmed by their emotions. In fact, it can be the complete opposite.

If we just put our feelings away and never deal with them, they fester and grow.
If we keep adding to it over time, it becomes like a cancer inside of us.

Recognizing, feeling and processing our emotions is truly the way for all of us to become consistently emotionally regulated.

We can learn how to handle the stressors of the world by understanding and recognizing how these stressors affect our emotional equilbrium. That awareness becomes half the battle in terms of conquering the dysregulation.

I know quite a few people who are experts at shutting down.
They look so calm and cool and together on the outside but what’s going on underneath that surface can be quite the opposite.
I know because they are human. No one is superhuman.

We can try to squelch our emotions, we can hide from our emotions, and we can deny our emotions but in the end they will always be there.

Do you shut down? It’s OK to temporarily put things away as long as you’re willing to take it out and deal with it at some point in the very near future.

You are not doing yourself any favors if you regularly shut down on an emotional level. It creates a disconnect in relationships and it causes secondary problems in every arena of your life.

If you been shutting down for so long that you don’t know how to get out of that place, seek outside help. You really can change the tape in your head and begin to feel, process and resolve.

Feeling is a part of living so fine tuning your emotonal processing will greatly improve the quality and happiness of your life in the long run.Open the door to your emotions and do not be afraid to feel. Feeling pain may be hard but feeling joy is what life is all about.

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  1. Sad news: I NEVER LEARNED TO RIDE A BIKE! NEVER!My father is a “slightly” old fashioned, old world Cuban man and girls don’t ride bikes, as far as he’s concerned. Sad for me!There’s always a tricycle!


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