I was told this many years ago but I really didn’t understand it or believe it.
Creating our own personal boundaries and and really deciding consciously what behavior we will accept from others is the key.
If we allow people to take advantage of us we have to take ownership of our part in those weak boundaries.
I definitely have learned this lesson the hard way in life.
It was hard for me to say no to people.
It was hard for me to establish those important boundaries.
So what happened? I was the one that suffered the consequences of these decisions, not the other people.
It was scary at first. I had to do what I call very “icky” things.
I didn’t want people to be mad at me or not like me.
Look at how so many of our decisions in life come down to that very important issue of self-esteem. The link between low self esteem and poor personal boundaries is huge.
Yes my low self-esteem was creating secondary issues in every arena of my life.
After I finally learned how to create appropriate personal boundaries, I discouvered that people respect you for those boundaries.
We are also models to our children and it is so important that we teach our children how to create boundaries in the relationships and in life.
This is really the most important lesson.
Think about it. How do people treat you?
Are you good with your own personal boundaries?
Learn to speak in the first person in from the heart.
Seek validation from within. Let go of what others think.
If a friendship is affected because somebody doesn’t like the boundaries that you have created maybe it isn’t a relationship that you need or want in your life.
Claim your power.
I wish I would have learned this important lesson much sooner.
Make the decision today that you will teach everyone around you to treat you respectfully at all times. Do not participate in any other type of interaction.
If you make that decision today it will be the first day of a beautiful new life for yourself. It will be a life where you love you.
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